In going through the day like others around me, I encounter things that people do that might rub me the wrong way. I'm sure that that feeling is shared by others in some of my actions as well. Not one human being can go through their lives without getting under someone's skin. But then I have to decide what to do.

If someone I do not know, or will not see again does on of these things, I usually choose to do nothing. Why bother? And that person stays in my head about five seconds and is gone. Yet, if it is someone in my family, or a co worker, or friend, I have to decide to say something to them or not.

The trouble is that if I choose not to say anything, have I truly let it go? Or is that little irritation going to lurk in the back of my mind and become added to each time they do that action? Till one day, I will explode to them about something I 'let go' so many times before. Leaving them confused and bewildered about why 'all of a sudden' it bothered me. So who's to blame about that? Them for getting on my nerves, or me for pretending it didn't bother me? Snowing myself into believing that I really did let it go.

Most people I know don't want to say anything in the moment because they feel that it is either a "small thing that is too trivial" or " they do not want to hurt their feelings". Yet unless we can really truly let these small things go, they become a cancer in the relationship that will boil to the surface later, maybe ruining the relationship for good. 

How are you at letting stuff go, or letting someone know before it gets out of hand that something is bothering you?